1. You are still not over your past relationship
Before getting into any new relationship, it is essential to let go of your past. If you are still hung up over your ex, it will be difficult for new love to find its way to you. Reminiscing about your ex and comparing every potential date with them can ruin your chances of any new relationship.
2. You are seeking perfection
No human being or relationship is perfect. All the dreamy pictures you see online do not convey reality. In every relationship, issues and disagreements are common. You two may not see eye to eye on several matters. The person you are dating will have some flaws, and you have them too. What you see in romantic movies is fiction, a glorified representation of relationships. If you keep comparing yourself to these ideals, then you are setting yourself for failure.
3. You are chasing the wrong people
Do you go for people who are serial cheaters or committed to someone else? Are you attracted to an emotionally unavailable person? Do you usually get attached to people who are not interested in a committed relationship?
If getting involved with unsuitable partners is a pattern with you, it is time to look into yourself and figure out why you set yourself up for disappointments. Understanding yourself better will help in your personal growth.
4. You are too dependent
Whenever you get into a relationship, you completely lose yourself. You want to spend every waking minute with your partner, and time apart makes you feel low. As the relationship progresses, you start relying on them for every little thing. You often seek validation from them and fear that they might leave you.
5. Your happiness depends on finding love
A person can be happy only when they find happiness within themselves. Looking for love with the thought that it will make you happy is wrong. If you link your joy to any particular person, it will make you miserable in the long run.
6. You can’t handle rejections
It is important to develop resilience in the face of rejection, especially when it comes to dating. It is not easy to face rejection, especially from a person you like. But in the course of finding love, there will be several rejections on the way. If you stop making an effort due to the fear of rejection, it will be challenging for you to date people. Do not let fear stop you from meeting your true love. Keep up your self-confidence and optimism, and learn something from every rejection. If you keep trying, you might soon find someone who was meant for you.
7. You have different priorities
Finding love might not be the current focus of your life. You might have different priorities at the moment. These can be things such as building a successful career, earning money, spending time with friends, traveling around the world, or partying hard.
8. You are too possessive
While it is okay to be attached to your partner, getting possessive about them is not healthy. Stalking your partner on social media, continually checking their whereabouts, forcing your will on them, and dictating whom they meet and what they should do are all signs of possessive behavior and shows a lack of trust. It could be suffocating for your partner. Every person needs space and freedom. Controlling someone is a way to kill love. Trusting your partner is key to a successful relationship.
9. You are not making any efforts to find love
You believe that love automatically finds its way. So, you wait for destiny to give you “the one” without putting in any effort. While you may run into your dream person on the road or meet them at your workplace, why not try from your end too? Keep in mind the saying, “God helps only those who help themselves,” and start looking out.
10. You don’t respect your partner
Mutual respect is the foundation of every relationship. If you behave rudely or abuse your partner, it will cause irreparable damage to the relationship. Every person values their self-respect, and if you dent that, it might change their feelings for you. No one can stand being belittled, humiliated, or taken advantage of for long. Someday, they will be fed up and walk off.
11. You are not sure what you are looking for
You want to find love but have no idea what you are looking for. Every time you start dating someone, you get involved without knowing your expectations and end up breaking it off soon. The qualities you are looking for keep changing considerably, and no person seems to fit the bill. If you don’t know what you are looking for in a potential partner, you might get into a series of wrong relationships.
12. You act too desperate
Waiting to meet the love of your life can become frustrating after a while. You might let go of all your conditions and drop your standards in the hope of finding someone soon. The need can become too intense at some point, making you move too fast in a relationship. You might start thinking about love and marriage immediately after meeting the person. Thedesperate behavior is not attractive and can scare people off. Relax and enjoy the game of attraction and dating. If it has to happen, it will happen. Don’t ruin it by acting desperate.
13. You have emotional issues
Certain ordeals have a long-lasting effect on your psyche. Suffering from abuse might profoundly affect your self-esteem, self-love, and confidence. You might be shut off emotionally because you are unable to process the pain. Exposure to violence in your early years can cause anxiety and aggression. Such sentiments might impact your current relationships and ruin your chances of finding love and forming emotional connections.
14. You pretend to be ideal in a relationship
When you like a person, you want them to like you back. So, you may present your best version in front of them and also compromise on certain things to look good. While it is not wrong to show off your good side, portraying a fake ideal image can be the biggest issue in the long run. First of all, starting any relationship on a false note is not the right move. The person will fall in love with the personality you have created, not the real you. Secondly, if it is an act, you will not be able to keep it up for long. Your partner will figure out they have been duped and end the relationship.
15. You have lost hope
If you have been looking for a while and haven’t found one, it becomes difficult to remain positive. The loneliness may make you feel sad and hopeless, shaking your faith in finding a partner. Negative thoughts could crowd your mind pulling you down further, and denting your confidence. Every time you get into a relationship, the thought that it won’t work out would be at the back of your mind. You start believing you don’t deserve love, and that perhaps fate is working against you.