Emma:
“Yes ! Fall down cry as much as possible fall deeper with even saddest songs and cry even more…
One day you’ll feel those songs a bit annoying and you’ll have no more tears to cry.
You have recovered from a broken heart. Bravo!”
Andreas:
It depends on how you’re using that sad music; what effect it has on you, and what it’s doing for your situation in the long run.
Music can have a cathartic effect. Listening to sad songs when you’re sad could very well help you cope with the emotions and not feel so lonely. Music can feel like it understands you.
And if that’s how you’re using it; great.
However, I also think it might be possible to use music – or any other imaginable stimulant – to act as a crutch and compensate for any actual progress on the issue.
When we’re hurt, we need time to process it, sure. But it’s deviously easy to become fixated in the role of the hurt, lonely victim for longer than what’s good for you.
And I know. I’ve been there. I once got an actual fucking depression after getting dumped by a girl. (And I’m not using the term ‘depression’ lightly here, because I know what a depression feels like.)
That situation didn’t have a lot to do with music, but I think sad songs might play a part in fixating one in the mindset that enabled that situation. And it IS exactly a question of mindset more than anything else.
Last time a love interest of mine told me she couldn’t invest herself in a relationship with me, I did break down. Then, after a couple of days, I listened to “Let It Die” by Foo Fighters and “Tougher Than the Rest” by Bruce Springsteen and bawled my guts out. And then, I started working on it and moving the hell on. Exactly because I knew that sitting around and listening to sad songs (whether playing on your stereo or in your head) isn’t very productive or healthy in the long run.
Interesting question because it’s so abstract; tricky to answer for the same reason. In any case, thanks for asking.
David Marks:
Why when I listen to certain music it makes me think back and be sad?
Don’t worry, I’m 57 and I sometimes do the same thing.
When we make meaningful connections with people we can get sad when hose connections change for any reason. When the connections are affiliated with music, the feelings can be even stronger.
I grew up in the 70’s, mostly. When I listen to 70’s music, sometimes it makes me feel good, because those were mostly happy times for me. Sometimes though, I feel kinda sad, because those were simpler times for me with less responsibility and I miss that.
And then there are all the friends I had that I’m no longer in contact with, or they may have died… that can make me sad, too.
When the music makes me sad like that, I usually change it and listen to something else. But it’s certainly normal. Just be sure not to close yourself off to those feelings only because they’re unpleasant. When you close out the pain, you also close out the joy.
Hang in there!
Micheal Lee:
Really depends. Everyone is different as are the way they listen to music and what it does to them or makes them feel.
If the sad music is only going to add to your pain, then try something different for a while.
If the sad music doesn’t bother you at all, then there’s no harm in it.
If you’re listening to sad music all the time and being sad all of the time, then it’s time to find some music that isn’t sad.
Music can be therapeutic and help, but at the same time if sad songs are only going to keep you feeling one particular way after a breakup, then it’s probably not the best idea. If you’re listening to sad music every so often to give yourself a good cry, then it’s not a bad idea – if you’re listening to sad music all the time and crying each time, then it’s something I wouldn’t recommend.
Personally I tend to avoid sad music when feeling heartbroken. Why add to my sorrows if I don’t have to. But that’s just my opinion and what works for me. Everyone is different. I say it’s quite okay to listen to what you want to listen to – but if the music is going to keep you down, then change it up to something not sad.
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