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Dear Absent Dad: Get it Together & Show Up for Your Kids Before It’s Too Late

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Anyone can make a baby. It takes courage to be a father.

As President Obama said during a 2008 Father’s Day speech, “What makes you a man is not the ability to have a child- any fool can have a child. That doesn’t make you father. It’s the courage to raise a child that makes you a father.”

I know of too many men who think that their quick contribution at the very beginning of their child’s life is what makes them a dad. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not downplaying or diminishing that contribution. It’s pretty darn vital to the whole continuity of our species, after all! However, that contribution merely makes you a biological parent. It takes a whole lot more than that single moment to make you a real father.

If you want to be a real father, you need to BE THERE for your kids. That has absolutely nothing to do with living under the same roof, either. It’s about being there emotionally, not physically. It’s about supporting them with your whole heart and not just your checkbook. It’s about being a part of their lives, even if you’re living a life apart from them.

Oh, and if you’re about to say, “Well, I can’t be there because…” let me stop you right there. There’s no end to that sentence that justifies dropping out of your kids’ lives. Nothing, nada, zip, zilch should stop you from trying to show up for them, period.

Stop making excuses for why you’re not in your kids’ lives

I have a lot of friends who grew up with an absent dad, and they’ve heard all of the excuses in the book. “I live too far away and can’t afford to come to see you right now,” “Sorry, I’ve been really busy with work,” and my personal favorite, “I’m a great dad. That’s your mom talking! She poisoned you against me!”

Look, as Matt Mogotlane said in the quote above, your absence is the biggest poison of all. Yes, there are moms who trash-talk their kids’ dads, and shame on them for doing it. No child should ever hear one parent say bad things about the other. But kids are perfectly capable of making up their own minds. If you make an effort to be a part of their lives, they’ll be able to see through any ‘trash talk.”

As for the other excuses, you don’t need money to be there for your kids. If you live too far away to visit regularly, let me clue you in on a little secret: we have this amazing technological advance called a telephone. Maybe you’ve heard of it. You dial a number and speak into it, then the person on the other end can hear and speak back to you. Crazy, right?

Sarcasm aside, there are so many ways to be a part of your child’s life without spending a single dime. If you live far away, phone calls, video calls, even emails are all very cheap. If you live nearby, just spending time with you is enough. You don’t have to buy your kids’ love; they’re more than willing to give it to you for free.

If you want your kids to remember you tomorrow, don’t be an absent dad today

I want to end this with one of my favorite quotes on this topic, by Barbara Johnson. She said, “To be in your children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today.” If you’re an absent dad today, you can’t expect to be in your kids’ memories tomorrow, plain and simple. You have to act now, though. Start building memories with them today, this very moment.

See, at some point, your kids will stop looking for you. They’ll stop waiting around for you to be their dad. They’ll seal up the hole that your absence left in their heart and move on. When that happens, it’s too late.

Oh, they may forgive you. They may make a small place for you in their lives, maybe even grow fond of you again, but they will never let you all the way in. They’ll never risk having their hearts broken by you again, and they will never look at you the way they did the day before you walked away.

So, I say again, absent dad: get your act together. Be a REAL father, before your kids let you go. Before you’re left with nothing but regret. Before it’s too late.

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