We all know that one high-school friend who will talk about every single detail of their life even though you graduated 15 years ago and haven’t seen each other since. Such encounters often make us feel awkward or even think about what we actually say when talking with others. We sometimes tend to forget the things that might be misinterpreted by others, so it is much better to keep them to ourselves.
Here is a list of 8 things you should never share with others
1. Your secrets and embarrassing things you know about others
First of all, gossiping never makes you look like a good person. This way you also show that you lack confidence and are trying to make yourself look better by undermining the value of others. Also, giving negative information comes with negative energy that can have a bad influence on you or the people you are talking to. So, if you know something about others, just keep it to yourself, there is no need to keep spreading the rumor or gossip.
2. Your property
Some people can’t wait to start bragging when they buy something new, whether it is a new car, house, clothes or anything else that money can buy. However, this behavior is a clear sign of low self-esteem and such people usually have big personality flaws. They use material possessions to hide their flaws and to seek attention. Try not to brag and avoid making yourself appear shallow by appreciating your material possessions more than anything else in life.
3. How much you earn
Your income is definitely something others should not be familiar with. Talking about money is often unpleasant because you can never be sure about another person’s financial situation. And if you find yourself in the company of a person who talks about their finances, they are likely very insecure and they need constant approval. Such person has no other interests in life but money.
4. Your goals for the future
Being proud and satisfied with your life and achievements is perfectly fine. Scientists have confirmed that you are much more likely to achieve your goals if you don’t share them with anyone. Some studies have shown that sharing your goals reduces the possibility of reaching them. This also tricks our brains into thinking we have already achieved the goals and gives a fake feeling of effort that reduces our will to work hard towards success.
5. Doing good things for others
We are surrounded with videos on social media about people who have helped a homeless person, a sick man or an orphaned child. Even though helping those in need is always a good idea, sharing your good deeds with the rest of the world just makes you look like you are bragging and using the poor person to get attention. Good deeds are valuable when left untold.
6. Your beliefs and preferences
We all believe in something different and we have different preferences in life. However, sometimes our own choices, beliefs and principles are not that bad topic for discussion, it’s just that some people go too far and they try to impose them on others. Doing this makes you look like an intolerant person and others might even try to avoid you in the future.
7. How brave you are
A real hero will never share their heroic acts, probably this is why most superheroes we see in movies wear masks and try to hide their identity. Heroes do what they have to do not because they want others to know about it, but because they are compassionate and courageous people who believe in their cause. If you consider yourself a hero, leave the praising to others instead of telling how brave you are yourself.
8. Family issues
There is not a single family without problems. Some are big, some are small, but we all have them. Sharing those problems with strangers will never solve them. The only people you should talk to about them are your family members. Sharing these issues with others increase the negativity. There is a difference between sharing just because you want others to feel sorry for you, or sharing because you want to get advice from close people.