10 Best ways to become immune to negativity and toxic people
1. Deprive them of the attention they crave
Toxic people want attention and they try to get it any way possible, especially at parties or similar gatherings. They often talk or laugh loud. Spend your time with quieter people and avoid wasting your precious time on toxic ones.
2. Avoid being around those who talk bad about others
If someone shares intimate information or secrets about someone else with you, don’t think they trust you. They are very likely to betray you the same way. They can even use your words against you so that you will be the one to blame.
3. Never put your guard down
Manipulative people are extremely good at deceiving people and tricking them into liking them. They can appear excessively charming and kind but it is usually a sign that something is wrong. Be careful around such people and follow your gut instinct because it is rarely wrong.
4. If you notice someone is lying, make it fun
Wait a bit before confronting someone when you realize they are lying. Instead, play with them by using their facts against them. No matter how perfect and flawless their stories seem, every time they recall them you will notice flaws and contradictions. So, pay attention and collect the facts so that you will eventually use to trap them in their own web of lies.
5. Ignore the negative words and insults
The vocabulary of toxic people is full of negative words and insults, but they are not powerful if you don’t let them be. Avoid getting down on their level and always remember that their words say more about them then they do about you.
6. Don’t fall for the self-pity
Self-pity is a common conversation starter for toxic people. They think that by acting as a victim they will get everything they want. No matter what they are going through, they are in power of their life and they should not feel sorry about themselves. Instead, they need to work on improving themselves and their life. Avoid listening talks about self-pity and if you can’t stay away from them, try not to participate. Once they realize you are just a listening ear, they will pick up the cue and might even stop complaining.
7. Avoid mind games
Toxic people can’t even be honest with themselves so they often respond indirectly, usually with playing mind games. That’s how they trick people without being in the spotlight. Always be direct and when you want an answer don’t give up until you hear what you are asking them. You can do that by asking questions that can only be answered with yes or no.
8. Be aware of false kindness
Nobody is kind all the time because if they are they are just dishonest with you or their emotions. No matter what the cause or reason is, it is false kindness. If you think someone is extremely kind to you, you might get the feeling something is wrong even if you don’t have a particular reason for it.
9. Control your emotions
Toxic people know how to draw negative emotions out of you, but only if you fail to control your vibes. You always need to keep your emotions in check especially around toxic people. Don’t bring your emotions in your conversation. If someone is provoking you with the intention of making you negative, just step aside.
10. Focus on constructive solutions rather than problems
Toxic people always look someone to point their fingers at when problems arise because that is easier for them instead of looking for solutions. If you find yourself in such situation focus on the solution rather than letting toxic people draw negativity around you.