Don’t Marry Him Unless You’ve Done These Things In Front Of Him…Marriage is full of many ups and downs, adventures, and incredible memories with the person you love.
Don’t Marry Him Unless you see these…If you’re going to be in a relationship with someone, especially if this is someone you want to marry in the future, you need to know that you can overcome bumps in the road together. There’s a certain level of comfort that you have to be able to reach with your partner before either of you decide to tie the knot with one another.
Your relationship is composed of a series of stages and tests that you both have to go through together. Marriage lets you annoy one special person for the rest of your life. And when you actually have that level of comfort with each other, you’re both going to feel like you will be able to conquer whatever challenge your relationship might face.
Sometimes, you’re going to have to learn to be comfortable with things that your partner does which you would never be okay with other people doing – and vice versa. Unless your partner has seen these less-than-perfect sides of you, then you really can’t be thinking about marriage yet.
Your partner has to express a certain comfort for the worst parts of your personality. Some of these are pretty serious, and some of these can be quite silly as well.
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Go off the rails with your anger and crying…
You can’t ALWAYS let your anger get the best of you. It can be easy to let difficult emotions control you. It could be that someone betrayed you, lied to you, or wronged you in some other way. Anger happens. But it’s best that you do so at least once and see if he’s still going to be willing to stick around after that. If he is, then you definitely know that that’s true love.
Being angry or upset with your loved ones is a common phenomenon. But when the anger stems from betrayal or disappointment then the sadness and hurt is the underlying emotion of your anger.
“Love is caring for each other even when you’re angry.”
“No matter how angry you get, you always end up forgiving the people you love.”
“A moment of patience in a moment of anger saves a thousand moments of regret.”
“If you care about the relationship, cool down before you speak. Because when you blurt, you hurt.”
“Anger doesn’t solve anything. It builds nothing, but it can destroy everything.” – Lawrence Douglas Wilder
Help You When You’re Stressed?
“Marriage is a three ring circus. Engagement ring, wedding ring, and suffering.”
Life is stressful. Work can be demanding, family life can be taxing, and so can our relationships, finances, and health-related struggles. Sometimes, we feel anxious, stressed, worried, or off-balance in our relationships. Stress is the main cause of most couples’ problems in a relationship. One of the best things you can do for your partner is to learn how to help them when they’re down.
Establishing what you need in advance means you and your partner are able to help each other and cope with stress as it arises.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is just be there for them, give them the space to talk then remind them that they’re not alone.
Remind them that you’ll be there for them every step of the way. Offer support without judgment. Acknowledge the fact that everyone deals with stress differently and remind them that whatever they’re feeling is perfectly valid.
Letting someone know that you’re available to talk opens up a safe space for them to share what they’re going through.
Pee or fart even Poop in front of him.
These are perfectly natural bodily processes – but they are also pretty gross. Usually, you would want to do these things in private. Or at the very least, when you fart, you want to make sure that it’s a silent one so that people wouldn’t know that it was you. But when you’re really deep into the relationship, it might be okay to start doing these things in front of one another. There shouldn’t really be that much to hide anymore.
This is essentially a lot like the previous entry – except you’re just taking things a step further. And that’s a pretty significant step. That’s a level of grossness that not many couples are able to tolerate in one another.
Have him witness a bloody napkin or tampon.
Menstruation isn’t necessarily something that a lot of men are going to be able to understand well or be comfortable with. So naturally, if your guy expresses a healthy tolerance with you on this matter, then he’s definitely reached a level of comfort with you that he hasn’t reached with many other women. This isn’t something that grosses him out as much as you would think.
How important is s.e.x to you?
S.e.x is about the quality of your entire love life, not the intricate alignment of your bodies. The deepest moments of intimacy occur when you’re not talking. A healthy relationship will include a discussion of what partners enjoy about sex as well as how often they expect to have it.
Couples who schedule time to connect with each other have healthier, happier relationships. Done well, marital sexuality can be a supremely healing experience.
“If you find someone you love in your life, then hang on to that love.” – Princess Diana
“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” – Aristotle
“True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked.” – Erich Segal
If people are looking to experience different things through sex — pleasure versus feeling young, for example — some negotiation may be required to ensure both partners remain satisfied.
Go shopping together.
Is he going to be able to tolerate your very slow and meticulous process of going about grocery shopping? Remember, this is something that the two of you are probably going to have to do together for the rest of your lives if you’re going to get married.
The true test is if he’s willing to go shopping with me. Will you go shopping, and will you hold the purse while I’m looking around and trying stuff on? He should be interactive and make comments, too, rather than reiterating how bored he is.
“Going shopping with money and nothing to find; Going shopping without money & wanting everything in sight.” – Unknown
Perform your most secret guilty pleasure.
You probably have a secret guilty pleasure that NO ONE else knows about – and you should be able to do it in front of him. Well, You should let him in. You should expose yourself in that regard. He’s your man and he has to know everything about you if you’re going to get into a relationship together.
“The more you share, the more you receive to share.”― Lailah Gifty Akita
Do You Want Children and What Would We Do if We Struggle to Get Pregnant?
You’d assume that everyone would touch base about children before they get married—but sometimes it doesn’t happen. While you should definitely discuss whether or not you both want them, you also should have a broader conversation. Struggling to get pregnant can be devastating in a relationship, and it’s not the time you want to realize that one of you wants to go through IVF and the other thinks it’s too challenging—or one of you is open to adoption and the other isn’t. Although your opinions may change over time, when and if you’re actually in that position, talking early can make sure you’re entering the situation as a team.
A husband and wife may disagree on many things but they must absolutely agree on this: to never, ever give up. A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences. A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love.
“Marriage is not about age; it’s about finding the right person.” – Sophia Bush